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The Dilemmas of Raising Talented Children

When I say talented children, I mean all children. They are all talented at something - or at least interested in things that we as loving nurturing parents encourage them to pursue. And by encourage them to pursue I mean empty our wallets and spend hours driving them to and from practice, games, training, performances, tournaments etc etc.

Now one of my talented children has caused me to have a serious dilemma.

There are two events on one weekend and now we have to decide which is more essential to attend.

Now I know this is just one child with two events she really wants to go to. It's easy to say to her, "Sorry you can't be in two places at one time. Laws of physics and whatever." What happens when you have two (or more) kids and they want to be in two different places and you are just one parent with one car? There have been times when I've hoisted my children onto another parent in the team, or I've dropped one and scooted off with the other and then turned around and come back for the first one. Sometimes I'm the parent with a car load of other people's children. And there have been times when they've missed out.

I work from home for myself. I can give myself the afternoon off if necessary. I can't figure out how parents with actual full time jobs that they need to commute to, get to anything.

My Mum has been complaining lately that our family aren't "close". We don't get together regularly as a full extended family. How many times do I need to point out to her that we not only live in different cities, but we all have jobs and children. Jobs means we are busy during the week, and children means we are busy all weekend. Depending on the season my kids are playing baseball, netball, AFL, basketball, circus training, playing in bands and who knows what will come up next season! My nieces and nephews are swimming, dancing, playing soccer and more. When are we supposed to get together?

Teenager's basketball game

Girl playing softball catcher
How do you do it? Am I just disorganised? Or have I succumbed to too much child-nagging and let them get involved in too many activities? What are your secrets to getting all the kids to all the things? I've only got two and it's a struggle.

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